Tuesday, 23 December 2008


As a single girl in Christian-Dom recently I have been reading up on a few things that have helped to get my mind in perspective about dating.
When I was younger I dated here and there, nothing too serious but when I decided to start living for God I realised that the concept of dating in my mind was different to God’s ideal for us.
I think as believers (and I am guilty of this too) we tend to think that we should date the same way as the rest of the world dates with the exception of pre-martial sex.
But this is wrong. I really had to go back to the drawing board on this one.
If you think like the world then you will eventually behave as the world.
So I got to thinking, what should a Christian romantic relationship be like?
And I came up with this. It should be like a deep friendship with the intension to commit to each other for eternity. I know there are some who like to date for the sake of dating but if we really think on it. Is that really the best cause of action?
Surely if we follow God’s direction he will lead us to the right one. Imagine if we spent our time trying to date as many as possible (for numbers sake) what we may miss out on. What if the person God has designed for you is around the corner but we are so distracted with everything and everyone else around us that we miss out on that special someone.
That is why the Bible calls us to obedience, in 1st Samuel chapter 15:22b it says, “Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice”. God expects our obedience at all times.
We lose out (not him) when we are not obedient to his word that’s why we should always be in a place of constant prayer, where we commune with him on a regular basis, to build up our relationship with him. Once you know someone you know what he or she likes and dislikes. It’s the same with God once you really get to know him, you’ll know what his desires towards you are.
In short; the dating process should be taken seriously with prayer, fasting and supplication. Before you say I do you should have all the facts. Remember it’s not our decisions that matter, its Gods decision that truly counts.
I came across an article on dating tips, which I found useful, here it is:

Christian Dating Tips...Honouring Christ, Your Date,and Yourself!
We've put together some Christian dating tips that we hope will be helpful for you or for someone you love
When it comes to dating, Christian singles are in a battle every day.
As Christians we all are called to a higher standard of living than when we walked in our fleshly desires. The Apostle Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 "You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honour God with your body." (NIV)
Whether we are young or old, the battle rages on in our flesh to remain pure and holy while we are dating. We MUST honour God with our bodies and we also want to honour those we are dating.
The good news is that we have help through the Holy Spirit who guides us and we know that Jesus has overcome the world! We don't have to face the battle alone.
Below, you will find some very practical dating tips that you can apply while dating. Some of these dating tips may seem a bit rigid, but when followed you’ll find that you end up with a beautiful relationship on the other end; and you’ll have no regrets.
We don’t want to spend a great deal of time on some of the more obvious dating tips, but we thought they should be mentioned none-the-less. Here are some well-tested dating tips that never fail. They may seem pretty obvious but you would be surprised how many people (mostly guys) don't apply these grooming tips.
Dress nicely
Comb your hair
Brush your teeth
Wear deodorant
If you are driving – Clean up your vehicle inside and out
And always bring along your sense of humour
We have discovered these dating tips through our own relationships, by watching triumphs and mistakes of others, and by simply taking a common sense approach to relationships and purity. We hope these dating tips help you in your search to honour God and your date while you are building a wonderful relationship.
Dating Tips to Grow a Strong Relationship!
Pray – Before you even leave home to meet your date you need to spend time on your knees asking God to help you honour Him and your date. You can never go wrong with prayer. This will also put you in the proper mind-set for your time together.
Talk a lot – There’s no better way to get to know someone than by talking to him or her about a wide variety of topics. The more you talk, the more you will begin to know if this might be a relationship that you should pursue.
Let’s be friends! – This is an important dating tip to remember. Don’t forget that until you are married the person you are dating could be some one else’s future mate. When you begin dating someone there is a lot of pressure to move things along much too quickly. Choose to keep your relationship on a friendship level. The longer you can remain "just friends", the better your relationship will be if you decide to get married at some point.
It's great being married to your best friend!
Pray in groups – What in the world does that mean? This sounds like an odd dating tip. What we’re suggesting is that you don’t pray together alone as a couple too early in your relationship. Prayer is so very important in any relationship so please don't misunderstand this point. When you pray with someone of the opposite sex that you care about you begin to build a level of intimacy that can often lead to trouble.
The goal in any Christian relationship is to honour God. Prayer is intimate communication with God and can draw couples together in ways not intended if you are not careful. It’s better to pray together when you are with other Christians. This will help keep the focus on God and not allow thoughts and emotions to wander to prohibited areas.
Choose to not kiss – At least until you are engaged to be married. Okay, this can be extremely difficult, but if you can follow this one dating tip then most of the others will happen naturally. Even kissing once you are engaged can be very dangerous. It’s better to not kiss at all until your wedding day! Before you laugh and click to another page with thoughts that we must be insane, consider these points on kissing.
A kiss begins to sexually stimulate a man (and woman) instantly.
If you aren’t kissing then you won’t become tempted to take things to a more intimate level. You’ll be protecting yourself and the purity of your date.
If a Christian man is kissing his date and it gives him an erection (often just the possibility of a kiss can do this), is God or his date being honoured?
Is this healthy for the man to get sexually aroused time after time without sexual release? When men become sexually aroused a large amount of blood flows to the genitals. If ejaculation does not occur; the build up of blood can become painful. That just can't be a good thing for anyone! Ouch! :O)
A kiss will surely break down your barriers and leave you in a position that could ultimately devastate your relationship with your date and separate you from a close walk with God. Self-control seems to be the better option.
Just think how magical that first kiss will be if it is saved for your wedding day!
Include another couple – You will find that physical issues are much less distracting if you plan most of your dating situations to include other couples. Group dates can be a lot of fun and you’ll also be helping your friends maintain purity in their relationships as well.
Always treat each other with respect – If you respect the person you are with then you won’t say or do things that will intentionally hurt them. Ask yourself "what would Jesus do?" and then do it!
Hope this has been helpful; let me know what you think.Selah

Saturday, 8 November 2008


Joann Rosario is a phenomenal Gospel artist. I first heard of her back in 2001, when she released her first album “More, More More”. And since that album, I haven’t looked back. She has a phenomenal gift! It is just so precious. There are many gospel artists out there, but only a handful can really deliver the anointing with the music, and she manages (by the grace of God) to do this, and do so well.
She was also originally a member of Fred Hammond’s Racial for Christ choir.
To add to that she has a magnificent voice with great vocal range and a great anointing is upon her.
The testimony behind her music is remarkable; a year after the release of her first album she was diagnosed with “nodules of the vocal chords” and was told she would never be able to sing again! See how the devil lies!! But God Almighty got the victory in the end, and she was healed- Halleluiah!

I’ve been listening to one of her incredible tracks “Saciame Senor” especially (which is on the Donnie mcclurkin album- Psalms, Hymns and Spiritual songs – april 2005) and I just had to write a few words on this wonderful woman of God!
Everytime I listen to her I can help but cry. She has an inate gift to bring you into the presence of God with her music. This is not down to her vocal abilty , which by the way, is exceptional! but its mainly due to the way she delivers the song.
She really and I mean really worships!.
If you have ever had the opportuity to see her Live or on video you will physically see what I mean. This woman loves the Lord! and I loooooove that about her. Her expressions, reels and movements clearly demostrate a pure heart and attitude to worship. She is amazing.
I guess I feel so swept away when I watch her because, for me when I worship I feel the same. Its like no one else is in the room. Just me and my master. As I praise him the words come alive in my heart and I am filled with the essence of worship. Most times when I have to lead praise and worship at church or when I’m at any church service enjoying their praise and worship or listening to any of my Gospel tracks I get overwhelmed by the goodness of God, and I burst into tears because I just cannot comprehend just how good God has been to me!.I feel so privillaged to be his child and I know that I am undeserving of the gift/s he has given to me. That’s why to praise him is the least I could do. He deserves all of it and I refuse to deny him that which is rightfuly his. So im thankful to women and men of God who can minster the love of God through worship and touch lives, just like Joann Rosario does.
God bless her. If your looking for pure worship. Get the CD, you will not be disappointed.
God bless you richly.
In his name

I wanted to upload the video from YOUTUBE but I was having troubles so ill post the link instead. Enjoy: http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=SEwi_3EbTO8
For more info on joann visit: www.joannrosario.com or www.myspace.com/joannrosario

Friday, 31 October 2008

The History of Halloween!

Well, its that time of the year again where people get all dressed up all in the name of satan! (sorry i mean halloween) But do we really know what halloween stands for? what it represents?
I do not celebrate it because having researched the history I cannot celebrate a day that glorifies evil and death. Have we come so far, that we can put on a costume without finding out the origins of the celebration.
Do we realise the impact our actions have on the rest of the world? Do we realise that as we are running around "trick or treating" , there are a group of pagans and druids offering up blood sacrifices all in the name of and to satan to commemorate the day.
If you are a Christain and you celebrate Halloween I advice that you research the history before you continue with the "festivities". heres a link to inform you on some of the history behind Halloween.

Personally I chosse to celebrate life in it's entirety. the Bible says that Jesus came, died and rose again so that we would "have life and have it more abundantly" (John 10:10). Hence we should be concerned with life not death. Selah

Wednesday, 29 October 2008

The Clark Sisters

My oh my can these sisters belt out a tune, you tube once again has helped me to discover some old and new gospel artists. I was given their miracle album about ten years ago from a brother at my church and at the time I was too young to really appreciate the skills behind theses ladies vocals but having recently stumbled across a few of their videos on YouTube I just say i am extremely impressed. have a look at the link I've posted I'm sure you too will be impressed!


I decided to start bloggin again because more often than not I am confounded with thoughts on what society or people in general believe we should do. We (as a nation) have slipped so far into doing what feels right that our opinions now are so manufactured. Not many people seem to be original; everything goes just as long as the society says its good!Nowadays it’s ok to get drunk and lose your respect and your dignity and embarrass yourself every Friday night. All in the name of “fun” It’s become a ritual to some, if they don’t get wasted on the weekend they feel incomplete.Every Monday when I get to work the first 3 hours of the day are spent listening to stories of various drunken antics that occurred during the weekend. Each person trying to outshine the other based on the amount of alcohol they were able to consume in one night. I find it totally embarrassing! Mainly down to two reasons.The first being my background. I was raised in a strict African household, with strong morals and values. Self-respect meant the up most and still does!. Every child in my environment was trained and raised to show respect to others as well as exude respect.And not in the boring sense! Instilled within us was the mindset to always consider the result before the action. So as to avoid disastrous consequences.This did not mean that we lead a shelter life and never made mistakes!! Of course we did- everybody makes mistakes its just meant that we were more aware of the consequences than of the actions. But I am thankful for my heritage because it has grounded me in ways I can never repay.The second reason is because of my faith. As a born-again Christian, the bible is my daily manual I can’t leave home without taking a dip into it. It has been a force to reckon with in my life. Without it I don’t know where I would be today. It helps me with decisions I make and it lifts me when I feel down. When any of life’s problems come my way I simple delve into it for a quick gulp of wisdom and it works every time.Because I strive to make sure that my life is based on what the word of God tells me to do, I find it hard (most times impossible) to agree with any thing, person or opinion that goes directly against the word of God. I just cant stray from it. It has been too good and too true to me, so my opinion is to forget what society says! As far as I’m concerned they can shut up! I’d rather focus on what God says. If it isn’t of God then I don’t want to know. Selah!